Reasons To Be Noted If You Are Dating The Right Person

Women remain “stuck” in relationships
with the wrong guy for the wrong
reasons. Why? Because if they don’t know
what they want, they can’t tell the
difference between Mr. Right and Mr.
Wrong. Sure, we all joke about that “list”
of must-have qualities: great looks,
intelligence, sex appeal, etc. But do the
qualities we seek add up to the right guy
— and in turn, the right relationship?
Unfortunately, the answer is often no. So
how do you recognize the right guy? The
first step is to articulate what you want

and need. That list is different for
everyone. But the second list is universal.
And that’s a clear understanding of the
qualities of a healthy relationship. As we
researched our book, my co-author
Jennifer Gauvain and I talked to hundreds
of women and we’ve observed five
universal signs you’re dating the right
guy:
1. You bring out the best in each other,
not the worst . You encourage each other
to grow personally, professionally and
emotionally, recognizing that change is
positive and healthy.
2. You trust each other and can count on
one another to do the right thing . There’s
no jealousy or second-guessing in the
relationship.
3. You have fun together . Playfulness
adds spice, and laughter is an
aphrodisiac.
4. You share common core beliefs and
values. Connecting on an emotional and
spiritual level can be just as powerful as
a physical connection.
5. You communicate with each other out
of care and concern instead of judgment
and criticism. Think about it this way:
What’s your tone of voice like when
you’re critical and judgmental? It’s hard
to have a harsh tone when you speak out
of care and concern.
Do you have these qualities in your
current relationship? If not, it’s time to
pay attention to your gut feelings. Deep
down, you know whether or not he’s right
— or wrong — for you.
Keep in mind that loneliness, lust and
butterflies can cloud even the smartest
woman’s judgment. But a solid
understanding of what a healthy
relationship with Mr. Right feels like will
help you clear your head so that you’ll
say “so long” to Mr. Wrong — and
recognize the right guy when he comes
along.